Etiquette begins with your message
Good etiquette is not about pretending to be someone else. It is about showing that you understand you are contacting a real person who receives visitors privately and chooses whom she sees. Begin with a courteous introduction. Tell me your name, whether you are new to BDSM sessions, what interests you and when you would like to meet. A concise, thoughtful message is far more useful than a long fantasy with no practical information.
Please read the relevant session description before you write. If you are unsure where to start, my guide to choosing a beginner session can help you form a clearer question. I am direct and naturally dominant, but I value intelligence and politeness from the first exchange.
Hygiene and presentation
Arrive freshly washed, with clean clothes and clean hands. This is a simple matter of courtesy in any close, private setting. If a scenario requires something specific, we can discuss it when arrangements are made; otherwise, choose clean, neat clothing and avoid bringing unnecessary items. Do not arrive under the influence of alcohol or drugs. I need visitors to be present, capable of communicating and able to respect the boundaries we have agreed.
Thoughtful preparation helps you relax as well. When you have taken care of the practical details, you are freer to focus on the atmosphere of the session. For a fuller introduction to what happens around a first visit, read my first-session guide.
Punctuality and private arrangements
Be on time. A private appointment is arranged carefully, and arriving very early, very late or without notice disrupts that care. Plan your route to the Earls Court SW5 area, allow for ordinary London delays, and message if something genuinely changes. The exact address is shared privately only after confirmation. Keep it private, do not linger outside, and do not make an unannounced visit.
Discretion is mutual. I do not publish visitors' details, and I expect the same respect for my home and arrangements. My discretion and privacy guide explains how I handle location and communication so you can make plans with confidence.
Tribute, rates and respect
Ask for rates directly when you contact me. I do not publish them as a menu, and I do not discuss arrangements in a casual or demanding way. Tribute is part of the appointment structure and should be handled exactly as I have instructed. Do not bargain, make assumptions or use another person's arrangements as a comparison. Respect includes accepting that I decide the terms under which I work.
When you come prepared and follow directions, you show me that you are serious about the experience. That allows the focus to remain on the session rather than on avoidable practical questions. The booking guide sets out the usual steps from first message to confirmation.
Respect during the session
Once we meet, pay attention and follow the tone I set. You may be asked questions so that I can understand you better, but do not mistake openness for a lack of boundaries. A professional session is built on mutual respect: I lead the scenario, and you communicate honestly if something changes or a limit needs attention. This is how authority and consent sit together without confusion.
Whether you are drawn to slave training, submission or a more focused caning session, arrive ready to listen. When you are ready to make arrangements, contact me with the same calm courtesy you would bring to my door.